Why Women Are So Pissed Off

Men ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters.
Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He’s done it with hundreds of audiences.

“I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other.

Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?

At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they’ve been asked a trick question.
The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, ‘I stay out of prison.’
This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, ‘Nothing. I don’t think about it.’

Then I ask the women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?

Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands.
As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine.

Hold my keys as a potential weapon.
Look in the back seat of the car before getting in.
Carry a cell phone.
Don’t go jogging at night.
Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights.
Be careful not to drink too much.
Don’t put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured.
Own a big dog.
Carry Mace or pepper spray.
Have an unlisted phone number.
Have a man’s voice on my answering machine.
Park in well-lit areas.
Don’t use parking garages.
Don’t get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men.
Vary my route home from work.
Watch what I wear.
Don’t use highway rest areas.
Use a home alarm system.
Don’t wear headphones when jogging.
Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime.
Don’t take a first-floor apartment.
Go out in groups.
Own a firearm.
Meet men on first dates in public places.
Make sure to have a car or cab fare.
Don’t make eye contact with men on the street.
Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.”

― Jackson Katz, The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help
(The first man to minor in women’s studies at the University of Massachusetts-Amherst, holds a master’s degree from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, and a Ph.D. in cultural studies and education from UCLA.)

5 thoughts on “Why Women Are So Pissed Off

  1. Hmm. Interesting. Some of the precautions would be illegal here – it’s illegal to carry any form of weapon, even for self defence, which rules out the firearm, mace and pepper. Using the list you’ve given above, I asked some friends and family to identify what precautions they take on a daily basis to keep themselves safe. Some of those precautions listed are sensible regardless of gender.

    The simple fact of the matter is that where I live, women are much more likely to be assaulted by someone they know, than by someone they don’t know, whereas men are more likely to be assaulted by strangers than they are by people known to them. And men are assaulted at three time the rate of women (although rarely sexually assaulted, but see the paragraph below). However, I will acknowledge that in a male/female confrontation, it’s usually the female that suffers most or all the harm, and it’s frequently of a sexual nature. The list of precautions is more applicable in cases of “stranger danger”.

    As someone on the autism spectrum, my mannerisms, attire, and inability to act in a convincingly masculine manner, has made me the victim of numerous violent attacks by strangers over the years, some of which included a female assailant or two. I’ll concede that they may not be explicitly sexual assaults, but some came close to it. I wrote about the first such attack in Last meal.

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